George and Darren

Jul 26 2010 Published by Marty Holman under Spiritual life

 

 

 

George Lippert

 

 

 

 

Darren Bell

 

 

 

 

 

 

George Lippert and Darren Bell.

A creative  and an engineer, both who happen to be friends of mine, and today I’d like to introduce you to a new feature of Martyholman.com.  Both George and Darren are really really smart.  Now I wouldn’t tell them this, but when I see them write on facebook or their blogs or when I chat with them, their insight and thoughts have inspired me to think more, so as a connector, I had an idea.

Why not get them to help more people think in a gentleman’s dual of intellect.

So I asked George and Darren, as two men who think very different from one another in some ways, and very much alike in others, to answer a question that I would ask via email, and then chat back and forth about their answers.  Along the way, Jeff Campbell gets involved in the conversation, and he makes things even more interesting.  Because this conversation was so lengthy, these posts will last most of the week.  I trust you’ll be inspired to think thorugh their conversation and ask questions to all the participants.  So I’d like to introduce you to George (GL) and Darren (DB).

MH:  So tell us a bit about yourselves.

George Lippert:  I’m a full time CG artist and part-time writer currently haunting the suburbs of St. Louis. Between being a husband, a father of two awesome little kidlets, paying taxes, cooking Mexican food, mowing the lawn, keeping my 100-year-old house from falling down, and playing lots of racing video games, I formulate lots and lots of “controversial” opinions. Some of them I will surely share below.

Darren Bell:  I’m Darren Bell. I’m a Chemical Engineer living in Philadelphia that lived for 6 years in New England mostly going to college and one of those years attending Fellowship Church. Spiritually I’ve been all over the spectrum from an Ayn Rand-esque athiest to going through 40 Days of Purpose. The last couple years I’ve been away from the church and Christianity, in the past 6 months I’ve found a church I really like in Philadelphia. Although aesthetically something appeals to me in Christianity and also I find it helpful to be reminded of certain morals I tend to forget I am pretty much agnostic.

MH:  In a world full of opinions and thoughts and gray, as opposed to previous eras of black and white, it can be tough to really know where someone’s coming from. As a writer/artist (George) and an engineer (Darren), What is the basis for your worldview?

GL:  We do indeed live in a time when a black-and-white worldview is not only unpopular, but outright ridiculed. Hard and fast absolutes are considered narrow and intolerant. Up until recently, I shared this perception, based on my background in (what I’ll call for lack of a better term) a fundamentalist upbringing.

I, like many people, grew disillusioned with a spiritual worldview that placed far too much emphasis on superficial rule-following. In rebellion against this, I (rightly) trashed the external rulebook as a method of determining rightness or wrongness in God’s sight.

Unfortunately, along with that man-invented rulebook, I also trashed the God-ordained fundamentals of absolute truth. I didn’t do this consciously, but it happened nonetheless. I began to trust subjective sources of spiritual reality as much as the Bible. Speculation became just as reliable as revelation in terms of the truth (if such a thing could even be known) about God.

The result was that I very nearly abandoned my faith (such as it was). I was disillusioned, selfish, confused, and generally irate with God. Why? Because he simply did not make a lick of sense to me. Of course he didn’t. My head was full of contradictory thoughts about him, based on the wildly various sources of information that I was trusting as a means of knowing him.

Just to list one example of those many contradictions: how could God want my “best life now” for me, while the apostles themselves were almost all murdered horribly for their faith? Was I better than them, somehow? Had God changed his M.O. toward mankind?

This and many other confusingly contradictory thoughts about God eventually wore me down. I was done.

And then, for the first time in a long time, I heard the gospel. I won’t go into it in detail (this is already too long) but it floored me. It was so simple, so amazing! This basic, fundamental truth that 1) I was simply too messed up ever to save myself, and 2) that I didn’t have to, because Jesus did it for me– it absolutely boggled my mind.

I had been in church for decades, and I had not heard that basic, simple, awesome truth for as long as I could remember.

So I began to seek out more of those basic Biblical axioms, completely free from human speculation. I fell in love all over again (and maybe even for the first time) with the comforts of simple, absolute truth.

Now, I need to hear those truths everyday, because I forget them so easily, and because the world is so bereft of them.

There is, in short, a mind-boggling misconception that absolute truth is restrictive, somehow– that it does not respect freedom and diversity.

In fact, absolute truths are the most freeing thing in the world. Just ask anyone who has ever had to navigate a mine field. Would they claim to be offended at the “absolute truth” of a map showing exactly where all the mines were? Or would they chafe against the “restrictions” on their ability to tramp however they wished, pell-mell, regardless of the outcome?

In fact, the map of certain fundamental truths is the most freeing thing in the world. It frees me from the constantly worrying blare of the voices of speculation and guesswork. It provides a groundwork for belief that is unshakable because it does not originate with me or with other men. It comes directly, by revelation, from God himself.

Of course, this depends on one accepting the Bible as God’s inspired word. Without that, then it’s all just back to the wildly disparate winds of speculation again. If I was stuck with that, I’d choose to believe absolutely nothing. It’d be safer.

I do choose to believe in the revelation of God through the Bible, however. Not out of faith alone, but because the evidence of history, sociology, psychology and my own conscience point toward its veracity.

The existence of certain unavoidable and undeniable truths is not popular– it is, in fact, about the least popular concept in the country right now. But (and this is a huge but) the popularity of a belief bears no weight whatsoever on whether or not it is true.

MH:  Thanks George.  Darren?

DB:  One of the first things I think of when I consider what the basis for my world view is is the importance of perspective. We are kind of trapped in perspective. Everything I view and interpret and touch mentally or physically, to take it into my mind and try to understand it or interpret it I have to get my Darren fingerprints all over it. And this is how it is for pretty much everyone as far as I can tell. I think a really healthy way to live is to have a respect that other peoples lives make sense to them inside their own heads, just like yours does. In fact exactly like yours does. I think a second healthy trait is to try to see your beliefs from the perspective of someone who doesn’t share them to see if they are merely based on your own perspective (i.e. I got in a car accident once and now I don’t drive even though driving is statistically pretty safe) or if they are broader then just what is in front of your eyes, in other words are the things you’re building a worldview on bigger then your own personal truths?

Back when I was a Chrisitan I was really excited about it’s “internal constancy” and faith=sight arguments, I would always say “I believe in God like I believe in the sun, not only because I can see it, but that by it I can see everything else.” And it really does!! It is totally true, that ain’t a sham at all. It took me several years but the more I thought about it the more flaws I saw in that type of thinking.

One of the advantages of trying to see your own beliefs from the third person is that you start to understand that just because we live in society that is religiously dominate by Christians, other people actually have religious worldviews that illuminate their world the same way as the Christian worldview. I started asking myself “Don’t you think Muslims feel that their beliefs correctly and insightfully help them to understand the world, and Buddhists and Jews?” In fact that is what all worldviews do, they are suns to our mental world. And for years I looked at the world through the lens of Christianity and honest to goodness, it was compelling, it made the world make sense, it had answers that made me think “Man, this is all so clear, I must be looking through the right lens onto the world!” But then I realized other people were looking though different lenses, and were at least claiming to see the world just as clearly as I was claiming.

This lead me only recently to conceptualize an important idea about what we can and cannot know, that it is proper for people to understand the limits of their ability to know things and the extent their beliefs can reach, and to have an intellectual respect for those limits. There is a circle around me. And within that circle is my perspective and my experiences, and that is pretty much all I have. From that I develop a worldview, I say some things are good and some things are bad and some are in between. I say some things are pretty or ugly, valuable or worthless, meaningful or banal. And I try to respect that circle and the limitations it imposes on what I truly can and cannot know, it is the salt of my worldview.

I believe aesthetics are important. I pursue happiness, beauty and understanding cause I just plain old like them. I don’t pursue them because they are absolutes, or ordained by an eternal creator. I just  like sitting out under a blue sky reading a book, and it doesn’t concern me at all that doing so isn’t good because it was ordained by some higher power, I’m content with doing it simply because it’s pleasant.

So the above kind of answers the questions “what is the basis for your worldview?” even though it does very little to define the content of that worldview, what I think about things, whether love is important, if I voted for Obama and whether I eat baby puppies for dinner. And since that was Marty’s question I guess I won’t go too much further (at the moment) in to WHAT I think, as I have answered HOW I think.

MH:  So what do you think?  Any questions so far for George and/or Darren?

 

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Never too old

Jul 09 2010 Published by Marty Holman under Church organization,Life

 

This is Wendy.  In this picture Wendy is sliding down a bouncy water slide with about a hundred kids, college students, and parents.  Wendy is a huge part of Fellowship Church! She tells me each week how much she loves the community, the services, and especially, the kids.  Each week Wendy spends time preparing to teach toddlers about Jesus, and tells me that she loves it so much, she would do it every week if she could.  Every time I see Wendy, she has a smile on her face.  One of the most amazing things about Wendy is that she is 70 years old.

70 years old.  She’ll never even read this blog because she doesn’t get online.

I believe she is the eldest regular attender of our church, and this is her sliding down a water slide at our Party in the Park last week.  She doesn’t mind that there’s “no around around her age” or that “the music is a little too rocky”  She loves Jesus.  he changed her life.  And now, with a smile on her face, she wants to help Him change other people’s lives too.

And she is so important to our community!

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The Italian Restaurant and Karaoke

Jun 30 2010 Published by Marty Holman under Church organization,story

I have a fear that when we have a “good idea” at Fellowship Church, the idea in our minds won’t translate to getting across a real point of spiritual significance, but will translate into “Man, that sucked.”

Several weeks ago, Carie and I celebrated our 5 year anniversary at the Italian restaurant where Carie’s sister Jessica works.  It’s a nice restaurant that only recently opened by occupying another failed Italian restaurant.  The experience was enjoyable, the food amazingly delicious, and the only negative was the ambiance given off by the restaurant’s 1970ish looking decor.

Fast forward to last weekend when Carie and I decided to hit up a brand new Italian Restaurant in the same city that reoccupied a closed McDonalds.  To say I was skeptical of whether it would be a good experience or not is to under-exaggerate.  I figured that I would not be able to get past the fact that I had spent some time ordering “two all beef patties, special sauce, lettuce, cheese, pickles, onions, on a sesame seed bun” at this establishment.  For a short time at the new restaurant I felt this way, but eventually they won me over having redecorated the entire building, so only the outside was reminiscent of the golden arches.  Then the wait staff was outstanding, and the food was even better than the aforementioned Italian restaurant we visited on our anniversary.  (It should be mentioned here in all fairness that we have only eaten at both restaurants once, and in both cases the food was great!)  Also, the restaurant was packed, for this particular restaurant has four other restaurants in Massachusetts, and they clearly did a great job of building their platform nicely on this launching weekend.  Food, check.  Wait staff, check, check.  Atmosphere, triple check.

On the way home, Carie wanted to encourage her sister, who was working at the first restaurant, so we decided to stop by there for dessert.  The first thing we noticed as we walked in was the number of cars in the parking lot.  Clearly most of the Italian restaurant connoisseurs decided to eat we ate that night, as the parking lot loomed largely empty.  As we walked in, the same vibe that had illuminated Jessica’s place of employment 2 weeks earlier had clearly disappeared as we wondered if this was really the result of a new restaurant in town.

The hostess sat down in a booth, and within two minutes of sitting, we noticed something was going on about 20 yards from us on the other side of the bar.  It looked like…No, it couldn’t be.  “Are they setting up for Karaoke?” I asked Carie in disbelief.  Alas, the woman leading the karaoke in charge was about to answer my question as she picked up the microphone and made an announcement that singing and good times would begin in about 5 minutes.

“Are you kidding me?” I asked Carie and now Jessica as she also stood in apparent disbelief, having not known about this before we walked in.  In the next 5 minutes, three couples formerly sitting in booths and enjoying the remains of there dinners quickly left the scene.  And then as tradition has it, the woman leading the Karaoke charge takes the mic, asks the Dj to push play, and begins to bellow a nasty country song worthy of any honky tonk on any side of the ‘ol Mississip.  A new couple walked in holding menus and walked towards a booth, then realizing what was happening, and about the time they were passing our booth, silently and with cat like prowess, they turned around and walked out.  The woman leading the Karaoke charge kept on bellowing.  Nothing could stop her.  And Carie and I were witnesses to the unraveling of a classy Italian restaurant.

Jessica served us our fancy desserts as some guy who had a halfway decent hit a grand slam with a U2 song, the only runs of the evening.  She responded to my inquiries about who in the world thought it was a good idea for a nice Italian restaurant to host karaoke by telling me the Chef was pissed and felt like the evening was a slap in the face to him and his kitchen staff.  By the time we walked out for the evening, the bar held a handful of wedding singers and the booths were practically empty.  Later, the owner confessed to his staff that he was trying to boost his bar numbers, and thought this was a great way to do it.

So he compromised what his restaurant was great at for a lackluster attempt to resurrect what was not going so well, and the result -  at least for that evening…

An epic failure in every area of the restaurant.

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The Neat Church

Jun 14 2010 Published by Marty Holman under Sunday mornings @ Fellowship,music

By the way, I suggest Myspace.com/thewrecking and tinablumer.com


It’s funny, whenever someone comes to visit Fellowship to speak or to play music or share their ministry with us, they always say the same thing, “You have an incredibly neat church,” or “you have a cool kind of vibe going on here”.  Of course, “neat”, in this context does not necessarily mean clean and “cool” has nothing to do with the pastor, but what they are doing is complimenting the community of people that make up Fellowship Church.

And when it comes to loving people.  First class, that’s what I think.

Jon Acuff, writer of “Stuff Christians like”,  as he spoke yesterday – Yeah, pretty much treated like royalty. (He, by the way is an amazing guy – and truly hilarious)

And The Wrecking, The Black Raspberries, and Steve Patton – I heard quotes all day from them like the ones mentioned above, plus others like, “We’ve never been treated like this” and “You all know how to treat people”, and of course the “It’s a sin if that woman (the lady who hosted the band’s dinner last night) doesn’t have her own restaurant.”

So basically, we know how to treat people.

Today I’m praying that we would also become a church and I would become a pastor who would treat one another as well as we treat strangers.  Sometimes, that’s easier, ya know?  Treating strangers well.  And familiarity can breed contempt and all that.  Like the teenage son who treats his mom like dirt, then goes out and treats his friends like royalty, as if they had something to do with him becoming who he is today.

So the last few weeks have been about bringing in “cool” people and treating them like royalty.  The next few weeks?

Causing the ones who we see each week in life groups and every Sunday in church to say,

“Wow, this sure is a neat church.”

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It’s fun to hate on Rick Warren

Jun 11 2010 Published by Marty Holman under Spiritual life

Something about the human nature that you’ve no doubt seen or experienced, and the chances are good that you’ve done it:  Most of us have probably gone on record in social networking either by blogging or twittering or “facebook statusing” to make some sort of reactionary statement against something that has either happened to them in the past or a perceived popular notion that easily has another side that’s been apparently neglected by whoever came up with the notion.

I’m thinking about this because recently I’ve seen many people take a few jabs at Rick Warren in the Facebook world.  Now I understand taking jabs at some extremes like the KJV only position or preaching against alcohol or any number of insane extreme personal convictions that are not backed up by Scripture but simply by the Holy Spirit convicting an individual (this of course is not wrong, and I applaud those who have different convictions from others), but come on, Rick Warren?

The guy preaches what he preaches, and it is the gospel, gives away 90% of his income, and so now countless numbers of people decide that this guys fluff, why?  Because he’s not reformed or uses his influence to reach far outside of the church?  One thing I’m learning about the church and myself:  We need to pick on someone.  We have a desire in our hearts (clearly not from the Spirit, so where’s it coming from?) to find what we assume is a weakness in someone because of what they didn’t say or what their book didn’t point out, and we call them out.  I call them out.

Enough of that crap!  I’m not doing it anymore.  If someone’s preaching a gospel that’s different than the sacrifice and resurrection of Jesus, that’s one thing.  But Fellowship Church in Massachusetts will not be known for our who we pick on or who we call out.  We are called to build up, and encourage, and esteem others better than ourselves.  And that starts with me.

And that starts now.

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Stuff Marty Holman Likes

Jun 10 2010 Published by Marty Holman under Sunday mornings @ Fellowship

I’ll cut to the chase.  Sunday morning at Fellowship we’ll be hosting a great author, an author of a book one of my fave pastors, Andy Stanley says, “I Can’t put it down.”  His name is Jon Acuff, and he writes the popular blog “Stuff Christians Like”.  He’ll be speaking at our 10:30 am service, and frankly, I can’t wait!

Here’s one of my favorite posts from him about “Our prayer requests that aren’t big enough”:

“Uh oh,” my friend said the other night at the end of our men’s group, “I don’t think I should share my prayer request anymore.”

Why did he say this? Simple, he didn’t have a “big prayer request.”

After hearing everyone’s very serious, very heartfelt prayer requests, his suddenly felt small and insignificant. He didn’t want to say it out loud. He was struck with a bought of prayer envy or “prenvy.” And you hate to see that kind of thing strike a kid so young. It’s a shame, a dang shame.

So to help him, and others out there, I thought it would be a good idea to review some ways to prevent feeling like your prayer request isn’t “big enough.”… (read the rest and more here)

This Sunday.  10:30.  Fellowship Church.

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The Wrecking!

Jun 07 2010 Published by Marty Holman under Church organization,music

Its been a crazy few weeks.  About two months ago a famous musician/blogger confirmed to do a benefit concert for Fellowship Church, which was great considering we needed to raise some money for Phase 1 of our new building project.  Unfortunately, with 2 and a half weeks to go, the headliner cancelled and I was up a creek without a paddle.  Metaphysically, of course.

For whatever reason, I allowed the loss of the headliner to bring up a whole bunch of other negative things that were going on in my life, nothing harrowing mind you, but enough to make me plunge into a negative mindset for about 3 days.  I called friends, emailed famous people, and after 3 days of working hard to find another headliner, I got nothin’.  On Thursday night I met with our lead team at the FC and canceled the concert scheduled for 2 weeks and 3 days away.

Then Friday morning hit.

And a beautiful day landscaped Central New England.  Not that it needed to be beautiful for what was about to happen, but it helped.  I received a call from a band I had contacted earlier in the week about headlining the concert, and after some chatting back and forth, and a bit of negotiation, “The Wrecking” was our new headlining band!

So this Sunday, June 13th, from 6-9, our church will be hosting an amazing concert that I know kids from 5 to 65 will enjoy  (And possibly even older)!  The Wrecking will be headlining along with an excellent set from the Black Raspberries, honestly one of my favorite up and coming bands.  And we’ll be opening up with some sweet hip hop from The Czar, Steve Patton and Aima.  This has turned out to be an excellent concert and I can’t wait!

We’ll even be having dinner from 5-6 out in the cafe for those who are interested in some pizzas and other such goodies. Tickets are $15 in advance (Either online or at Sunday mornings @ Fellowship) or $20 at the door.

You can buy your Ticket to this great concert here!

Or you can just say hello to me here.

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What makes the clouds lift

Mar 24 2010 Published by Marty Holman under Life

I was in a funk last week.    I don’t mind sharing this with you now, but at the time, I really struggled, mostly with my scheduling and production.

You see despite the fact that I’m not a real big tradition guy, I tend to work best in an environment where I become a creature of habit.  Then I went to Haiti.  The trip was eye-opening, amazing, and when I think back on it, needed.  But for the week before, due to the loss of my wallet and all important information to my life, and normal preparations for a week long trip out of the country, I didn’t get much accomplished.  Then for two full weeks after, I don’t know how else to say it other than I found myself in this funk or cloud or island where there was a time machine and two guys called good and evil vying for my attention (sorry, that last one was a shout out to ‘Lost’ fans).

During those two weeks I got nothing accomplished (like the week before the trip), got kicked out of a basketball game (story coming later), and became addicted to an online video game with a few of my friends.  By the time Sunday, March 14th arrived.  I was so irritated at myself, I couldn’t even believe it – but still, I had not a clue how to lift the funk.

On Tuesday, the 16th, Steve and I attended a funeral in south central Massachusetts.  On the drive home, I received a call from a number I recognized, but couldn’t place it, so I didn’t answer.  After listening to the voicemail, I realized it was Ben Arment, my Dream Year coach.  We scheduled a phone appt. for that day, but I thought it was 2:00 pm, and he called at 1:00 pm.  He was right.  I was wrong.  Not shocking, I guess, considering my funk.

In humility and with a bit of disgust with myself, I called him back and basically apologized.  We chatted for a while and I guess he realized I was kind of out of it, and by the end of the convo, he says, “Well Marty, I don’t know really what to do here, the ball’s in your court.  There’s some things you have to do, and you know what they are…”  He let those words hang out there, and for the first time in about a month, I could see a bit through the clouds.  I don’t even know if he knew how impactful his words were as I sucked them in like icy air making its way through my lungs while playing football on a cold fall day.

“Yeah, I do know what I need to do.”

The last few weeks have been a different story.  I haven’t got kicked out of basketball games, or played online video games, or even sat at my desk and wondered what to do.  But I have spent tons more time with Carie, and quality time with friends and I’ve even been reminded why I love doing what I do and the vision for what we’re trying to do here at Fellowship is once again clear in my head.  This should not be shocking coming from me, but I think what made the funk go away and the clouds lift was the reminder that the people in my life matter, and that by focusing on people, as opposed to just tasks and simply getting stuff done, I’m helping to affect people’s lives. The life groups that we are trying to build here in central Massachusetts aren’t just simply programs of our church, but they are indeed our church.  The community building vision that I am trying to get off the ground (aka fellowship Worcester, The Splat Coffeehouse) is not just something for my ego, but they are essential to my vision of the church being more effective in the context of community and relationships than simply coming once a week to a building and feeding oneself.  So now I have to go, because I have things to get done and people to connect with, but…

I still despise that one ref.

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2010 – the year to dream…and implement

Jan 11 2010 Published by Marty Holman under vision

For years I’ve known I’m an ideator, but many times, the fact that I wasn’t a good executor of those ideas led me to sit on several of those good ideas like the devil can sit on a tack.  2010 is different.  This year provides me the execution skills (no, I’m not the guy with the black hood walking around with the ax) that have caught up with my Ideation, and wallaa, look out world.

I have a new coach, a great team, a set of amazing dreams in line with the vision of the church I pastor, and a great big God who has given me much to risk, because after all, it’s not mine to keep, it’s His to do whatever he wants.

This year is going to be amazing, crazy, and I hope I won’t be the same person I was when it started.2010

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I am Different now

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People and the way they connect and build one another up to become more like Christ.

This is the one reason why I love church.  Sure you have serving and teaching and organization and leadership and bearing one another’s burdens and music, and for some there might be other reasons why they love the church, but for me, that’s it.

Last night Carie and I finished another season connecting and building up (and being built up) a group of people who we have come to love as our family.  We mixed in there a few people who will be a part of our next season of community, and in the midst of all this, I’m reminded why I do what I do.  It will be another few weeks of awkward time getting to know a new group and having them get to know us.  No doubt there will be some lull in the conversation and an inability to decipher what someone is trying to say, but in the end, I’ll be back here in a year or two writing in this blog, on a natural high, telling you how I’ve come to love this new group of people.

We are expanding our influence, challenging one another to serve, love, and give more than we think, and moving to deeper levels of intimacy with the God who we serve and the Christ who makes it possible.

And in the process, we become different people

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