The Hard Heart

Proverbs 4:23 – Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.

I’m not sure how this sounds but one of the things I’ve looked for in any relationship I’ve found myself in, whether it be friendship or dating Carie or meeting people in church or playing basketball is the condition of their heart.  Clearly I can’t see anyones heart, but somehow I know, like you might know, what that looks like.  I’m quite sure in my lifetime I won’t be finding any perfect people, but I want to know whether or not the people who invest in me and I invest in them have some particular qualities, and the biggest one – a soft heart.

I find it quite difficult to define what this means but I’ll give it a try.  A person with a soft heart will listen before they will talk, they will learn before they will give instruction, they will care before they will dismiss, they will serve before they will take, and they will seek truth instead of imposing.

The reason this is important to me is  when I have a soft heart, and embody many of these qualities, it’s easier for me to connect with God, a relationship I believe to be the most important in my life.  When I develop a hard heart for any number of reasons, I find it easy to be in this life for me.

And to be quite honest, I don’t have time to develop friendship and trust with people who are only interested in themselves.

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