3 Reasons you should know…
Billy Atis
I haven’t known Will (Billy) Atis long, but in the last 6 months, I know there’s a lot to like about the guy. I met him playing basketball at the YMCA with the Alpha guys and the guy who made me get irritated by Jesus, but he’s been great to play with and we’ve had several conversations off the court too. Billy is originally from new Jersey, and currently lives in Worcester and works in Framingham as a chemist. I’m sure there’s more to learn, but here are three reasons why I think you should know Billy Atis:
1. He’s compassionate.
You can just tell that he has a big heart for people when you talk to him. I’m sure he’s not perfect, and he does like to call a lot of fouls on the basketball court, but behind all that, it’s pretty easy to see that this guy cares. Now if only his job at the chemistry lab could see that.
2. He likes kids.
Billy has a child, a 6 year old son, as a matter of fact. He wants to be the best dad he can be, and he also coaches soccer on his sons team.
3. He is scared of marriage.
Not everything on the “3 reasons you should know” posts need to be positive or negative. Billy has a problem. he’s scared of marriage. I mean really scared of marriage. So scared that when I talked to him about this blog post, he’s the one that brought it up. So for our discussion today, I’d like you to share with Billy why he shouldn’t be afraid of marriage or why he should continue to be afraid…be very afraid.
So let ‘er rip. What would you say to Billy?
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You’re right to be scared Billy. TERRORFIED! Until you find the right lucky lady (or, as a friend told me today, until you make yourself ready), that is.
I’ve witnessed people getting married for whatever reason and not showing who they _really_ are until after the “I do”s and … well, it doesn’t end well.
People need to get to know each other before taking such a huge step and ignore the initial bliss of relationships. It goes away, it gets old, and so do you (and the l’il lady). And then what do you do?
BUT as with all other things, if we trust and more importantly, _listen_ to God, He will guide our choices in the right direction. Situations will arise when we’ll get glimpses between the pretty faces and wonderful personalities, to seeing who the person truly is. And when that happens, don’t ignore, confront it head on.
I think people get the wrong idea about what marriage is though, like its finding the right person for them. I think though it’s the other way around, finding someone that YOU want to make happy; that you want to serve with all your heart; someone that if they were to decide tomorrow that they hated your guts you’d still love them anyway, blah, blah.
And for me that’s where the fear comes in. Not only do I not think I will ever feel like that for another human being, I’m not really sure I want to. So if I were to ignore all of the above, find someone I’m _merely_ attracted to, who’s company I enjoy (for now) and get married – It’s quite likely life would become a living hell when real world issues hit and we can’t come to a solution. And then what to do? Divorce? Suck it up? Share the misery?
Nah. I think I’ll just wait until I’m not such a selfish .
I say go ahead Billy: be afraid. And use that fear to drive you to become a better man. Or just ask God for help with that. I hear He’s good at those sorta life changing things.
p.s. another reason I don’t like the layout. My reply is longer than the original post. Lame!
p.p.s. “I think I’ll just wait until I’m not such a selfish .” should have been “I think I’ll just wait until I’m not such a selfish > edited from content < . It’s not quite as funny now :_(
Great stuff Orville. Its weird, I think part of what i’m scared is not having a successful marriage or being the type of Husband God would expect men to become. I kinda feel like you do in terms of not being really sure that I want to.
The other day someone said that the key to marriage was falliing out of love with yourself first….not to sound selfish, but i’m not sure i’m there yet.